In the United States, a mother decided to give at home with her little girl. It was after a long preparation that this event was able to take place, which was also a very nice experience for the whole little family.
There are choices that are more original than others. In the United States, Rebecca, a mother of two made a decision to invite her 3-year-old daughter, Hunter to be present during her home . She wanted to create a special family moment and an unforgettable memory for her daughter and new- son Rory.
Pregnant with a little boy, she and her husband decided that the delivery would not take place in the ᴍᴀᴛᴇʀɴɪᴛʏ ᴡᴀʀᴅ, but at home, in the company of their daughter. Assisted by their doula (person who accompanies a couple morally and practically during pregnancy and after), as well as by a photographer, it was on the sofa in her living room that Rebecca gave .
She told the online magazine CafeMom: “Having my daughter at my was one of the reasons I wanted to do it at home,” she explained. “I wanted Hunter to be as involved or not involved as she wanted to be and I didn’t want to have to be away from her.” This is also the reason she decided to give in the living room instead of having a water .
As she began to get into ʟᴀʙᴏʀ, her husband went and brought 3-year-old Hunter into the room. According to her photographer and doula, Nicole Lachey, the little girl was reserved at first, but became more involved in the process. “She would gently stroke her mom and tell her she was doing a great job and she kept exclaiming how excited she was to meet ‘her ,’” she said. “When Rory started to crown, the midwife invited Hunter over to be the first to touch her brother. Hunter gladly reached over and put her finger on his head and said ‘it’s squishy.’”
While some do not share this conception of , Rebecca justifies her choice by saying that by involving her daughter in all aspects of the of her little brother, this allowed her to develop very strong ties with him.
Just after he came into the world, she was able to have skin-to-skin contact with him, further reinforcing the intensity of this moment. Then comes a question: How could such a young react so well to an event that has caught the eye of so many adults? The present photographer explained that Rebecca talked a lot with Hunter about things she would see or hear during the , so that she wouldn’t be surprised or sᴄᴀʀᴇᴅ. Thanks to all that preparation, even when his mother screamed, Hunter didn’t look away for a second.
To all those who would like to live such an experience with their ren, Nicole adds that “the best thing to do to prepare them is to show them videos, to talk about all the aspects of , and above all to present them with this from a positive angle. Birth is the most normal part of life; share it with your ren and teach them from the beginning that is nothing to ꜰᴇᴀʀ. Birth is strength.”